Vacation Day 3

It is now Day 3, Wednesday of my vacation. Sexy and I sleep in. I finally got some much needed sleep. After we got around and dressed I decided to fix breakfast. I made homemade blueberry pancakes and a fruit salad. It was beautiful and tasted good too. I used a made from scratch pancake recipe and then added fresh blueberries. YUMMY!!! After breakfast Sexy and I decided to help her mom out and do some vacuuming and cleaning up around the house. Her mom had been gone for about 2 weeks and the dog was shedding horribly. Definitely a good idea on our part. After that sexy and I lounged around and read our books till around 3:30p. At 3:30 her mom got home and we left to go sailing. After her step dad finally figured out how to connect the boat to the suv and get the lights working we headed for the lake. Once we got to the lake sexy and I just stood around while her mom and step dad unhooked on the wires and ropes. Then they called us up to help put the sails on. Then it was time to put the boat in the water. Once we got out on the lake it was nice and relaxing. We motored out to the middle of the lake and then put up the sails. Presto!!! We were sailing. Marty steared us for a bit and then Nancy took over and then she handed the reins over to me. I then continued to control the rudder for the rest of the evening. It was a great time. I have to say it is a bit difficult though. And frustrating a little when you can't find the wind. But in the end we made it around the island and had a good trip. Then came docking......All I have to say is watch out for those ropes along the side of the boat. they are small but they bruise like hell! After we got the boat out of the water we then had to tear everything down. I got a crash course in that too. Then it was off to dinner.....no not really. No taillights on the boat. Nancy, sexy and I got tired of waiting for marty to fix then so we decided to walk up this huge hill to the road. Not sure why but I just followed the gf and her mom. A little while later Marty finally stops and picks us up but still no lights. We ate at this grill and pub and it was very nice. Good food and good bear. Thanks for the dinner Nancy and a lovely time sailing!

Vacation Day 1 and 2

Day 1: driving across IN, OH, PA
As most of you know this summer has been long and hard and I was so excited to be leaving for vacation. My vacation was moved back a day but I got left and had a great time. I left Chicago about 2pm last monday and headed east. I was so excited to just be on the road and I was not trying to think about the 7 hours of driving a head of me. Well, that seven hours of driving turned into 9 as it took me twice as long to get across Indiana. I was stopped for an hour on the highway with my windows rolled down so I just decided to get my book out and read. I just relaxed knowing that sometime that night I would get to Sexy's grandparents and I would be able to see her. Remember it had been 10 day since I had seen her. Unfortunately, we had to pretend to be best friends and not lovers at her grandparents. After taking a few wrong turns in W. PA i finally arrived at her grandparents a little before midnight. I was so happy to finally get there. I was also very happy to find out the sexy and I were sharing a room. No friskyness but at least we got to kiss and cuddle. 10 days really is a long time!!!

Day 2: farm in w. PA-driving across PA
Got up, took showers, ate breakfast. Sexy's mom headed back to Reading but sexy and I decided to stick around on the farm to visit and go swimming. After sexy's mom left I got put to work cleaning the pool. I was glad to help out......and I sort of love being the "pool boy". Sexy went to visit her aunt and her grandmother took me for a ride on the golf cart and showed me all the farm land. It was neat and I felt honored to get the tour. I am so glad I get along well with her grandparents. I have really missed doing things with my grandparents since they have gotten to old to get around. Her grandmother and I then went and picked some sweet corn for lunch and then husked it all. Sexy and I then went and picked more sweet corn and had some kissing time in amongst the corn. We had lunch and then we went swimming. Her grandparents have a nice size, in the ground swimming pool. It was relaxing to swim. I was showing off my floating skills and Sexy and I were diving for pool coins. Had good conversation. It was a lot of fun. Sexy and I then changed and we headed out across the big state of PA toward Reading. We made a few stops along the way. One being at Sunset West. This is a little diner where her mom and grandmother would meet to exchange her and her sister when there were young. It is about half way between the farm and Reading. It was nice to be able to visit someplace that was important in sexy's childhood. It brought back good memories for her. She also told me all about her week at the Michigan Womyn's Music Festival and I told her all about my week. We had lots of great talk and "fun" while driving across PA. We arrived at the mansion on the mountain pretty late. Enough time to carry our stuff in and play a game of cribbage. Then it was off to find our bed. Friskyness and sleep....just what I needed!!!

i'm Back!

I am back in the windy city. i had a good trip but sad to be back to my boring life. I could have used another week or two vacation. I had a great time with sexy and her family. I will tell you all about it soon but I need to get some bills paid first.

Leaving for vacation!

Thank you to everyone for your interest in my polyamory topic. This is still an on going topic so talk about it as much as you want. As my title said I am leaving. I was suppose to be leaving today for my trip to PA but it was delayed a day. I will be leaving hopefully in the morning and won't be back till the 20th. Don't know if I will have a chance to blog or not during my trip but I will try. I hope to have lots of polyamory or other related questions to answer when I return. Lots of love!!!

RE: Polyamory

Thank you so much for those of you who commented about Polyamory. I find it to be an interesting subject and I felt like talking about it some more. I agree with Yeni that society does put a lot of labels on people. I believe monagamy is one of those. As I was discussing this with Connie I was talking about how people love more than one person all the time. Yes, it is a different kind of love but it is love. I love my son, I love my family, I love my best friend. I love sexy. All people I love. So, if I love all these people why couldn't I romantically love more than one person. I feel I have a lot of love to give! Just think about it. If you are saying no, it is not possible. I can't love more than one person at a time. Why? There is something or someone that has told you that it is not possible, but there are people who are doing it so it IS possible. I don't think we should tell ourselves it is not possible if we have never experienced it. Can you honestly say you don't like something if you have never even tried it? Don't get me wrong, i am not saying we should all be in polyamory relationships. I am saying that we should not be closed minded about other possibilities. Am I out there looking for another girlfriend right now. No, but if it ever happened I believe I would be a little more open to it now.

Yeni, had an interesting question I would like to comment on. Here it is...Now the question I have is does being polyamorous mean that one person is loved by the other two, or do all three love each other the same? Well, in my research I have found both cases can be true. Sometimes it can be three or more people who all love each other. This is not the case most of the time. Usually there is a main couple and then either 1 or both of them have a lover too. As both Caitlin and Yeni said it has to be agreed to by everyone involved. Communication is definitely the key. If all parties don't agree then it will not work. I love this subject so please comment more. Ask me any questions and I will try to answer them the best I can. Love!

My crazy weekend in Iowa!

Shit! Has it really been that long since i blogged last. Damn, time has been flying by. I have a lot to talk about so here goes. So, last week I was trying to spend as much time with sexy as possible knowing I wasn't going to see her for 10 days and not talk to her for 7 of those days. She is currently at the Michigan Women's music festival. I am sure she is having a great time but I really wish I was with her. I miss her but I do have tons to do in the next few days.

So, last Friday I headed to Iowa. I went to visit my grandmother who has been very ill. They think she might pull through now but she won't be the same. It was so hard seeing her so weak and sick. Friday night I then went to see my cousin race at the Marshalltown Speedway. He races in the modifides. It was fun. He got first in his heat and 7th overall.

Saturday was the big 135th anniversary of my home town. All of my sisters were in town so all my family was together. It is always nice to have everyone around. Too bad the weather didn't cooperate. Right when the parade was about to start it started to downpour. It lightened up a little during the parade but everyone got soaked. The parade wasn't anything spectacular so the rain actually livened it up. The kids got lots of candy. We all then went back to my parents and changed into dry clothes waited for the rain to stop.....and it did...then we went to the other festivities going on. Jr. participated in a kids tractor pull. He liked it but was a little upset he didn't win. We then watched the water fights in the afternoon. A tradition in Iowa I guess to have opposing fire departements see who can use a hose and point it the best. I used to love them as a child but now I am not so sure. Fun to watch but I couldn't help but realize how much water was being wasted on the sport that most would probably find stupid. We then had a big bbq at my parents house and a birthday party for my sister's roomates' child. It was fun.

Sunday started with church in the park and then a potluck afterward. It was nice to see people I hadn't seen in a while this weekend. The potluck was nice and I had a good talk with my hometown pastor. We talked about me faith journey which I will save for another blog. It was a nice talk. Sunday afternoon I started to clean my parents pool which turned out to be a much harder job than I had first thought. But I got it cleaned and filled and my mom thinks it looks better than when they first put it up. Thank goodness!

Monday, my dad, jr and I headed to get my car fixed. I am trying to make sure everything is working well for when I head to Pennsylvania next week. My dad then treated us to lunch. i then went back to my parents, packed up my stuff and headed for Iowa. It was an interesting drive. At about DeKalb it just started to downpour and it was really hard to see anything and it kept up for over an hour. I guess that stormed dumped about 4in of rain. I can believe it! Got back to the city and was torn whether to go to square dancing or not. I decided to go and I am so glad I did. Michael the caller found out i was learning plus so even during the mainstream tips he called plus calls. it was fun and good practice. He also did a hexagon square. I always love learning new things. We also did a 9 person square. Michael asked me to be the 9th person. It was fun. I put my arms around peter and i became the left half of a person and he was the right half. Babs was our parner and we just had a great time with it. It was nice to see Michael so enthusiastic and teaching everyone new things. It was a good time. Afterward, I went to Sexy's to check up on things. She left lots of wonderful notes for me and a couple of cds. Gave Mitzi some fresh water and a bit more food. Read up on her worms. She has a bad mite problem and I hope to take care of it this week. Came home and went to bed. Now it is Tuesday and I have to much to do to spend anymore time blogging.